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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if you are this concerned about the marriage and its footing you already have your answer and should not likely move forward with a wedding. [/quote]

No, I'm just a Type A personality. I'm the type that would continue couple's therapy throughout marriage just because I find that kind of thing helpful, regardless of if we have issues or not. I want to use every tool at my disposal to make my marriage happy and successful. Love doesn't keep a marriage together. Work does.[/quote]

Ok.

Well I'd make sure your potential future spouse is up for that kind of long-term counseling! I'd personally find it exhausting, but that's my personality.

We did the required Pre-Cana through the Catholic Church, which in the Diocese of Arlington is actually quite extensive and our particular priest had monthly sessions with us for 10 months leading up to the wedding. Do I think we got anything out of it? Not particularly if I'm being honest. (Frankly I question the utility of relationship counseling from someone with no experience in a relationship.) On the other hand we've been married 10 years, are 2 kids in and have had a very smooth marriage. [/quote]

Just to be clear, I'm not talking about 2 hours a weeks of counseling forever. I just think a "check-in" once a month to have a space to discuss anything with a neutral 3rd party to mediate our discussions. I know many people that use couples therapy as maintenance...not because their relationship is in jeopardy. As you read here daily, there are many people in crappy/unhappy marriages. Don't want to be one of the people posting here in 5 years about last of sex, or falling out of love, or children tearing us apart, or an affair, etc.]

I'm mostly just curious if people who did it think they could've just gotten the list and gone over it themselves, or if attending weekly for however many weeks with another person was better.[/quote]

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