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I'm a perfectionist and and usually visualize exactly what I want for a party or special occasion.

So if I were hosting something special for a friend, I would understand their need to have complete control over the decor, theme, colors, food, presentation, etc. I would actually expect that they dictate! It's their moment, and unless there's a risk of damage to your home or going overbudget, there shouldn't be a fight over who's choosing what.

Is she not communicating well? You're not her slave, and she's not your boss. She needs to send you pictures and specifics with gratitude that you are putting this together for her. "Here's my dream shower (pics) and a list of where to get all the stuff. What I can do to help you? Thank you so much."

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I disagree.  If someone is hosting a party in my honor, I would expect to be consulted on major decisions, but not every detail.  That's ungrateful, and basically just using someone as a checkbook/party planner.  You should trust your friends to host a nice event, and you should allow them to give it to you as a gift.  If she's not the boss, then she shouldn't be sending OP a set of directions and expecting the OP to just follow them.  One or two big things?  Sure.  "I've always preferred co-ed showers," or "I hate this particular shower game," or "It's really important to me that my grandmother can come."  But dictating the food, decorations, etc.?  Back off, or throw your own damn party.

Also, who the fuck has a "dream shower"?  And isn't the "theme" "Larla is having a baby?"  This isn't a kid's birthday party, after all.  [/quote]

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