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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, that is SO wrong on so many levels.  When DH and I were first seriously dating, his then-15 year old daughter had a similar text from his ex's new live-in-boyfriend.  "Hi, baby girl, good luck on your text today.  Sending love and all the right answers."  At first I thought maybe it was actually his ex typing on her boyfriend's phone or some thing because I couldn't believe any man in his late 40's would think that was an appropriate text to an unrelated teenager.  DH checked her FB and saw that the creep had friended her and sent a bunch of similar affectionate messages.  Mind you, he and her mom had only been dating a couple of months and he had just moved in.

DH decide this was worth a small war.  He wrote to his ex and said that it was clear that her new bF had no sense of appropriate boundaries with a teen girl and that he wanted them to have no social media or electronic contact.  He also said he was prepared to go fe full custody (he had 50/50) if he heard even a hint that the man was inappropriate in person in terms of nudity or intruding on her privacy in any way.

It was a battle b/c the ex made everything a battle but she let it slip that she had not been aware that he was texting their daughter.  Long story short, they got married, daughter came to live with us full time, they got divorced, and he died from complications of a heroin overdose.  But I digress.

This is a serious red flag that I would go to battle ever.  "Phil, I hope we can both agree that unrelated adult men should not be texting our daughter.  Would you please ask Mr. Creeper to refrain from private electronic communication with our daughter?"

If he doesn't respond in agreement, at the very least I'd set up electronic monitoring on her phone while you have it.  Have you locked down the phone and set up parental controls?[/quote]

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