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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm hurt by something husband said, and wonder how other people would feel in this case.

My husband was talking about the many reasons he's unhappy: too much stress and bullshit, too little time and money to enjoy life.

I wanted to point out something that's going well and pointed out that our babe (21 months old) is doing really well. She's happy, confident, healthy, friendly and curious and well-behaved. I truly believe that she's doing as well as she is because of the way she spends her days. I meant to say that a silver lining is that his hard work allows me to stay home, and I in turn go out of my way to provide what babe needs to develop so well.

And he said no, she would've been just as fine if we sent her to daycare as an infant. Meaning that I get no thanks or even recognition for making sure that babe's days are filled with exploration, animals, friends, encouragement, etc, etc. It just feels like such an insult and slap in the face. Would this upset you, or mean little to you?[/quote]

I just read a little of the other thread.  If both are you, your husband is dying here.  He needs some help supporting the family, and your comment about how great your daughter is doing is salt in his wounds.     Have some empathy for HIM instead of just focusing on your hurt feelings.   You've got to meet him halfway on this, or your marriage is doomed.  And letting your credit go to hell to stay home is irresponsible parenting, IMO.   Especially if you are struggling with money now.  You either have to have tons of savings or good credit to survive in this world.  Sounds like you don't have either.  And your child deserves a financially stable household.  It doesn't have to be rich, but it has to be stable.  [/quote]

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