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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please be kind in your replies because I am fragile when it comes to my mom.

Here is the story:

My mother is turning 65 this year. She has been married for 25 years to a man 15 years her junior. They married a few years after my father died. Together they run a very profitable business which was left to my mom by my father when he died 30 years ago.

Lately, she has been talking about her post-retirement plans, and has mentioned several times over the past few months that she needs to find an estate attorney.

Today, she brought it up again, and I asked a sensitive question that I knew might ruffle her feathers. Asking was perhaps not my best judgement, but I was curious.

I asked her if she was planning on leaving everything to my stepfather or if she was planning on dividing her estate between my brother and I and skip over my step dad or some combination of the two. I prefaced my question very clearly by saying that I wouldn't have an issue with however she plans to handle her affairs. I am married and have been living independently for many years.

Her reaction was to get defensive and weird and grumpy. She told me that she is not denying herself anything in her old age so that other people can get some of her stuff. (By the way, I couldn't care less if that is what ends up happening). She actually ended up hanging up on me.

I am angry that she refuses to partake in a frank, transparent conversation. I am angry that she has an attitude that I am trying to get something out of her when I haven't asked her for financial help since I was in my early 20's.

I think it would be a normal thing to discuss, especially considering that my stepfather (whose entire livelihood comes from a business my father started) could easily remarry if my mom were to pass away.

Any thoughts on this would be appreciative. Was my asking this question completely out of line?

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*any thoughts would be [u]appreciated[/u]. - OP [/quote]

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