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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your wife is probably scared and feeling alone, and you're painting her as the bad guy. Recognize that she wants to control the uncontrollable; she wants to make everything right when it is wrong. She wants to believe this is behavior and not an overpowering condition.

Talk to your wife about getting some counseling to help her manage this. You have a duty to love and help your wife--not villianize her.[/quote]

Meh. I've had to live with her controlling ways for 13 years. I'm over it. I'll villianize her if I want to.

She hid her mental illness from me before we got married. Didn't tell me until 7 or 8 years in that she had been hospitalized in college and it took 6 years to graduate.  By then we already had children and I was trapped.

I do a lot for her mother. I treat her mother more kindly than she does.

I'm tired, though. And I still feel trapped.

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Be a grown-ass man. To do so, here are your options:

1) Continue to be a pussy and complain about your life on anonymous online forums (you will likely do this); be sure to actively try to pit your children agains their mother for bonus points, because you truly are a despicable person

2) Get counseling for your entire family. Insist on it. I doubt you will do this, because why actively try to improve your situation when you can be a martyr?

3) Leave her. If it is that bad, leave her. Doubt you'll do this, because it may take effort, and you don't want to at all look like the bad guy--[b]SHE'S the bad guy, right? I mean she had the AUDACITY to suffer from mental illness and feel ashamed/stigmatized about it.
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The OP has good reason to be concerned for his girls as well as his MIL. Even though his wife has legitimate issues, it still grates on family relationships.

And by the way,  family counseling isn't a  cure all.   [/quote]

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