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[quote=Anonymous]Fiancé (okay, that feels weird) and I have been together for 12 years, living together for 11. We've been through the kinds of good times and bad times that normal couples go through- loss of a business, moving cross country, new careers, etc. We have an excellent relationship and have just always considered each other to be "our" nuclear family.

Christmas Eve (culturally, Christmas for both of us), he completely surprised me by proposing. Of course, I said yes.

The weird part is I'm not that excited. It's exciting, yes, but I wasn't going anywhere after 12 years anyway. It's nice to know that we will have legal framework to protect both of us, but somehow I just feel like it's so anticlimactic and almost moot at this point.,

When he told his mom, she called me crying with congratulations. I just felt awkward. I mean.. I've been around basically forever, right? She's talking wedding and grandchildren now and it just feels... Weird.

I'm seeing everyone posting new engagements on FB (not a good gauge for social behaviour, I understand), but I don't even know how to tell anyone, or even if I want to.

I really just want to go to the courthouse or Vegas, have a nice, private wedding and just move along. I will be so proud / happy to be Mrs. X (although I'll probably keep my name), but I haven't ever felt like I wasn't already (and yes, I know there's a difference, but in some relationships there isn't).

Part of me feels like I should be bursting with happiness... But it's just a strange kind of contentment and wanting to keep this moment private.

Anyone with long term relationships who have gotten engaged (still sounds weird) experience the same kind of thing?

We're both 40ish, FWIW. [/quote]

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