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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you concerned he's going to start online gambling?

Do, my DH came to me looking striken a while back. He was pratically holding his breath when he blurted out that we had 50k in credit debt. I tend to blow a cork and he was expecting an absolute nuclear meltdown. I thought for a second and even though he is in charge of finances and authorizing purchases,  it took TWO to get in that hole. My response was, let's figure this out together and get our shit together. He was visibly relieved. I did not even realize until that moment how much stress he had been carrying in his body until I saw it leave his chest, face, and shoulders.

You know what? We together kicked the shit out of that 50k in 8 months time. We now do finances TOGETHER. We are both responsible for keeping each other in line.

You both got to where you are, now it's time to both get out of it.[/quote]

What did he spend 50k on and what was the length of time? When you say he was in charge of finances, do you mean you never did any part in seeing bills, etc? I am just curious, not snarky because I'm not sure I would help like you did. [/quote]  about a year, but we've never been disciplined even before that,  but the 50k is the first time we let it get out of hand. Spent it on bullshit, you know...home improvements,  vacations, shit, excess.

DH and I have always had very defined "swim lanes" which works well for us. His lane was the money. We now share that responsibility, especially since he is completely unable to say no to me, and that was a big part of the problem. I'm was just as guilty of wanting this and that and he would always authorize it because he likes to make me happy.  Now I'm happy watching our savings grow. We've made a complete 180.

I'm actually happy the 50k happened. We came out stronger. I behaved like an adult (not being a bitch over it), and we reaffirmed our belief that we work well as a team.[/quote]

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