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For us, it's been about accepting the facts, taking the time to mourn the life we're not having, and then focusing on the positives of having an only--of which there are many--and making a consistent effort to help our daughter build relationships and friendships.  
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OP here.  I guess it's hard for me to focus on the positives of being an only, though I know there are some, because I am an only and know what my experience was like.  The big difference is my parents did not try to overcompensate for having no local family around by trying to make family friends/help me have good friends.  They never made any friends themselves where we lived/didn't know our neighbors/weren't proactive in helping me make friends.  For example, I can't remember ever being allowed to invite a friend out to dinner or when we were going somewhere.  It was always just me and my parents.  I don't have any friends from my school days/high school now.  I haven't been back to my hometown in over 10 years b/c my parents moved away and retired elsewhere.

As a parent of an only, I will work hard to make sure my DD has a completely different experience (much more kid-friendly and having lots of friends around).  I'm sure she will be able to make friends once she gets into school, but I am having a lot of difficulty making mom friends/family friends.  No one seems to have the time/interest.[/quote]

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