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[quote=Anonymous]I turned 50 this week.  If you celebrate Christmas, it's a really hard time to have a birthday.  We didn't even celebrate it together bc the kids had two holiday programs at two different schools so we went separate ways.

I had repeatedly told my DH to wait until the same day in January. Now he's now grumbly because he heeded my request, but 1) my girlfriends stepped in and took me out for breakfast, and 2) his friends are asking what he did for me, so he feels like a lame DH.  But I thanked him for actually listening to what I wanted.

However; the issue I'm seeing with you, OP, is that it appears to you that your DH didn't try to do anything for you, or ask you if you wanted a deferral.  And depending on the kids' ages, that they did nothing also (even tween/teens might need to be reminded to do something; your DH didn't remind them.  Is that what's bothering you?

If so, well, you know you have to figure out how to change this situation.  I don't have enough info to give advice more specific than that, but it's safe to say that you don't want to find yourself in this spot during your NEXT big birthday, so get to work fixing what you have, or changing what you have.

I have ONE caveat to this, OP.  If your DH *forgot* it was your birthday, then I actually think the issue is not that big of a deal.  IMO most men don't think about "important dates" and it is NOT a reflection of their devotion to you.

However, if your DH remembered (or if you wisely had reminded him a week or so before) and this is what the result was, then yes, you have a good reason to be blue.

((hugs)) to you OP.  [/quote]

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