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[quote=Anonymous]Respect boundaries. Listen and use reflective listening to show you heard what she said. Be able to separate your emotions from hers and thus do not make her take care of your feelings. If you have anxiety or other troubles, be honest about how you manage it for yourself so she doesn't feel like she has to take care of it for you. And, really important, so she realizes that she can have feelings (sorrow, anger, anxiety) without expecting that it will make you feel bad and make you try to fix things for her. Speaking from experience with my mom who tried to hide her anxiety but was in reality leaking it everywhere. Who panicked and went on the attack if something was going wrong in my life. And from watching my husband get all upset and clingy with dd when she is upset about something. He doesn't understand that he makes the problem about him and his feelings and therefore it feels oppressive to dd.[/quote]
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