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[quote=Anonymous]Hi,

I am really feeling stressed more than usual as Xmas approaches.  We are in the middle of getting divorced and I have never been so financially stressed with all the money going out for various things on top of an already not-cheap urban life.  I do not by any means live extravagantly and would consider myself middle-ish class or lower.

My teen is a really great kid and the innocent victim of all the problems that come with divorce.  I have very little money for any holiday gifting, etc and she is over the moon excited about the holidays and Christmas.  It's breaking my heart and I'm just so sad and depressed.  I've been keeping her away from all the facts and issues of the divorce both regarding my STBX and money issues.

On top of this she has outgrown her kid furniture and specifically her bed - and she truly needs a new one.

I'm of the opinion that this is the time of year you indulge and splurge for your kid (because in our case it never happens the rest of the year).

I have told the adult members of my family that I can do absolutely nothing as far as gifts so please don't get me anything.

I guess my question is...

Do you really have a talk with your kid about the fact that there is hardly going to be a Christmas this year, or do you do the best you can via spending savings and maybe a little on CCs?  If so, what you you say?

When I add up Xmas Tree, new bed & bedding, reasonable gifts, nice groceries for holiday meals, etc., it could easily reach $800-1000.  I'm already in a place where I can't cover the bills.

I feel so embarrassed to be so beaten down by this because it's not like me - I'm normally a very strong and resilient person.  I guess I'm just asking how others in the same boat have dealt with this.

I would do anything for my kid and want NOTHING for myself (in life, not gifts).  Damn, these are tough times... 
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