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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not like he left her to clean her own sheets, he cleaned her up and set her up with a garbage pail in case she got sick again. It's not what I would have done, but I also don't think it falls into the category of neglect. As for leaving her with her grandmother the next day, if grandma was okay with it, why is this a problem?

I don't think this is something you talk to him about. There's no way this would be considered grounds for amending a custody/visitation schedule, so it goes into the category of things you need to give up control over after a divorce. Otherwise you'll be perceived as that obnoxious ex who's always nitpicking him on everything, and then he won't listen to you on anything.[/quote]

Agreed, not grounds for any formal action.  However this does feed into an overall pattern.  Example, he recently returned the children in dirty clothes, not fed (it was noon), hair unbrushed, teeth not brushed....  that's just one example.

I'm really not interested in taking "action".  What I want is for him to think about what he's doing and try to do the compassionate thing.  He's just not very empathetic with the children.  One reason we split; once we had kids it became clear, he only cares about his own feelings.

But perhaps this is one I should let go.  I appreciate you writing PP.

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Why didn't your children brush their own teeth and hair, and put on clean clothes? My children are 4 and 7 and they can do these things on their own (well, the four-year-old needs help with her teeth, but can at least make an effort). Obviously the ideal is for your ex to step up and make sure the kids do it, but since that's not going to happen, your children need to be taught to handle them on their own.[/quote]

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