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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad died this year.  Mom had died a few years ago.  Sibling has control of the estate (in another country, so I can't pick up and drive there, for example), and is pissing away money from it - sending "family friends" (sibling has none - he is an alcoholic, and depressed, among other things - no children) internet tchotchkes and meaningless crap (!!!) for "holiday presents".  Meanwhile, there are six of us total - all married - with at least two children each. In other words, the grandchildren would benefit from estate items, no matter how small.  I have a strong idea that sibling either donated or threw away parents' items (except the ones he deems valuable, of course).  Sibling makes excuses whenever a polite request is made for a specific item (more than one would be out of the question, so I and the other siblings thought we might start with tiny requests - a specific item, even if that item is worth nothing).

The "family friend" gift recipients are well aware of sibling's underhandedness, FWIW.  It seems as if sibling wants anyone else to receive items, but us. Any useful advice?  If not, thanks for letting me vent. Happy Holidays. [/quote]

OP here - meant to add - sibling has *named* control of estate.  Brother designated and trusted, though he clearly should not have been.  I don't know where to start in hiring an attorney to intervene- especially since brother was legally designated (though clearly taking advantage of that fact).  Perhaps I am depressed from the loss of my father.  Can some one please offer guidance?  Thank you. [/quote]

13:17 here. Are your parents and yourself nationals of that country? Is this a country where children are automatically beneficiaries of the estate? Or are you designated by name in a will as a beneficiary? If so, this gives you rights, and you are entitled to your legal portion, regardless of who is executor. So you have to hire an estate lawyer in that country and figure out a game plan with him. The most urgent action is to have the whole property itemized and valued, so that your portion is calculated on the total amount, and then the sibling would think twice about making things disappear that he would potentially have to reimburse. It would be nice if the rest of the siblings could all participate in the lawyer fees, so that the lawyer is effectively speaking for all of you, against the sibling executor. However in my family's case, the siblings couldn't stop fighting and some hired their own lawyers.

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