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[quote=Anonymous]Can anyone relate to feeling regret that you waited too long to TTC, and are now dealing with infertility?  I am dealing with this now, but with secondary infertility.  My story is that my husband and I got married at 28.  For various reasons (that seemed valid at the time), including moving a lot, graduate school, and other reasons, we postponed starting to TTC until we were 35.  Luckily, I got pregnant right away and had a healthy pregnancy and delivery.  Now we have a beautiful toddler.

However, now we would love to have a second child, we are now TTC again, and it's been almost a year and no pregnancy.  I have had the initial infertility workup and have been diagnosed with decreased ovarian reserve.  My numbers are awful.  Husband's sperm is fine, so no male factor issues at all.

It is very likely that due to my numbers that I will not be able to succeed with traditional IVF.  It's looking like donor eggs or adoption may be my only chance at having a second child.

I'm feeling a lot of regret about not starting to TTC earlier with baby #1, if we had we would probably have two kids by now.  I guess I assumed that we'd have no problems getting pregnant, given a very fertile family history, but now I am having difficulties getting pregnant with baby #2.  If you have these feelings of regret about not starting sooner, how are you dealing with your feelings?  I am seeing a therapist.  But I just keep thinking to myself that I regret that we made the decision to put off TTC #1 for so long, when we could have gotten started in our early 30s.  It would have been challenging, but not as challenging as dealing with secondary infertility, DOR and AMA.[/quote]

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