Reply to How to be closer to DD (age 11) if I'm stretched thin (working and with 3 kids)?

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "How to be closer to DD (age 11) if I'm stretched thin (working and with 3 kids)?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly it probably wouldn't be any different if you were at home, especially since it sounds like you are close to your other two kids. It may just be that your temperaments and personalities are different, and you don't feel as connected. There's nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't mean you love her any less -- you just have to make more of an effort to connect, whereas it just comes more naturally with your other two. Being at home wouldn't necessarily change that.
As long as you continue to make that effort, and taking some time one-on-one when you can, then you're doing well.[b] I'm sure she knows you love her.
[/b]
[/quote]

I wouldn't take this for granted.

What OP describes sounds similar to the relationship between my mom and I, growing up, My mother and I are pretty much oil and water, my mother is very bubbly into  fashion, pop culture , make up , very extroverted and into  pleasing everyone etc.  I am he polar opposite and always have been. Trouble is I have 2 sisters who are more like my mom and she has always gotten along better with them. As a pp mentioned my mom would make negative comments about other people similar to me in personality. Very long story, but  my mother and I basically don't have a relationship other than on the surface. There are times when I think my mom's behavior stemmed from a little bit of jealousy of me, because I was happy to be me and wasn't consumed with conforming so everyone liked me.
Your daughter is fine the way she is it's sad you have known her for 11 years and still view her with such negativity.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics