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[quote=Anonymous]Don't respond to the links about breastfeeding and other topics you don't wish to discuss with her. If she brings them up in person, just say, "I'm confident that Jim and I will make the right decisions for our family with the advice of our doctors." Repeat, repeat, then ignore.

Don't make every little thing a battle. Nod and smile or blandly say "Thanks!" through what you can, so that when you DO have to set a clear boundary, you haven't lost your impact by fighting her on every little thing.

Make sure *you and your husband both* are on the same page about social media, etc. Have HIM tell her, in person AND over e-mail/text (so there's a record), "Nancy and I have decided that no one is to share our baby news until February 25 (or whenever one day after YOU make the public announcement will be)."

If a health concern or a loss arises (and I sincerely hope it doesn't!), then your husband can again convey, "We have some private family news to share, and it is NOT something we want shared publicly on Facebook or through word of mouth." Etc.

The MIL/DIL relationship is a tricky one. If you believe in your heart that she generally has good intentions but is just socially awkward, try to cut her a bit of slack. She won't react the way you want her to about everything. She'll say weird stuff. She'll give you weird presents. But if at the end of the day it's mostly harmless, and she has a decent heart and is a decent human being, just try to let it roll off your back.

Good luck, and congrats on your baby![/quote]

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