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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's none of your mother's business!

Different families have different preferences and I do think it's your husband's job to be the primary planner with his family.  If he's really not willing to do it, then you can think about what's in your daughter's best interest.

Maybe he's feeling overwhelmed with the baby coming and doesn't think it's a good time for visitors (I would tend to agree).  After you get into your new routine, talk it over with him and tell him it's up to him to initiate the plans.  I think you are being totally reasonable.  But if you want him to be in charge, you have to accept that [b]his preferred level of contact may be less than you want[/b] for your children.  Are you ok with that?[/quote]

OP here - this is the root of why I feel guilty.  My preferred level of contact with my MIL is minimal (I'd like to see my BIL and SIL more often but not so strongly that I feel the need to take on travel/visit plans).  But I feel deep down that this isn't right, even though it is in my best own best interest to keep the visits few and far between, as they are now.  OTOH, if my husband's not willing to get off his butt to coordinate, why should I, right?  My daughter has lots and lots of loving family in her life as it is...[/quote]

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