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[quote=Anonymous]For many years we lived close to my husband's family (both parents, sibling, and aunts/uncles/cousins), but several years ago moved closer to mine.  I am super close with my parents and we see them often, about once a week.  They have a great relationship with our daughter and are super grandparents - helpful, not intrusive, very generous.  We all genuinely like spending time with one another - my husband often lobbies to see my parents even when I could use a little break!

Since we have moved farther from his family, my husband seems to be falling somewhat out of contact with his own.  They talk on the phone with some regularity, and my husband coordinate Skype calls between his mother and our daughter, and also with his brother and SIL.  But he never invites them to visit us or initiates travel plans for us to see them.  Our daughter knows her other grandma and uncle and aunt, but doesn't see them very often.  I get along great with my BIL and SIL and just okay with my MIL, but don't feel like it's my job to maintain the relationships btwn them and my husband/daughter.  And I don't particularly love traveling to visit or hosting them at our house, so I don't go out of my way to arrange those visits  (I'm also 7 mos pregnant, so that complicates things too).

But then I feel guilty for not doing more to keep my husband's family in our life and especially in the life of our daughter.  My own mother also makes me feel guilty constantly for "not including" my MIL, but truly, isn't maintaining this relationship my husband's job?  I feel like I do enough with keeping our social calendar, arranging visits and weekends away with family friends, making "couple" friends for me and my husband and playdates for our daughter - am I really in charge of keeping up our relationships with his family too?   To be clear, I in no way "block" my husbands efforts to see/spend time with his family.  It's more like he never suggests it, and I don't bring it up either.

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