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[quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous]OP, bear in mind that they may be putting a positive spin on things and the reality may be that they're not quite able to make the trip.  Older people sometimes do that because they don't want to worry their families, or they fear loss of independence.  Tread carefully, respect their choices, and preserve your access to information.[/b]

And +1 on not booking non-refundable stuff.  You already know they're unreliable.[/quote]
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Re-read that bold statement, please, OP. The above is a very wise post. They may be putting a spin on this. And even if they're not -- even if things are medically peachy keen -- they've been given a profound scare. As another PP said, too, what matters more than what the doctor says is how the patient feels, and that includes feelings of fear, not just physical feelings. Give them the benefit of the doubt here. Would [i]you[/i] really want to travel cross-country two months after a major health event if you were still reeling mentally, even if you weren't reeling physically?

And they are not at all responsible for your non-refundable expenses. That's the deal you made, not a deal they made for you, and you made it (pre-heart attack) knowing they don't always follow through on travel plans, so it's on you. Go and enjoy New York. And please, never bring up the cancelled trip or the expenses to them.

The post indicates at the end that you seem to resent them for canceling previous trips. You don't seem to see any real difference between this cancellation and previous times they've cancelled. But there is a big difference here that you might see if you're willing to put yourself in their shoes and think about how you or your spouse might feel in the same circumstances. 
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