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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a girl and I've always had a hard time making close female friends. In fact I get along better with my husbands guy friends than i do with their wives.

I just feel like I don't have much in common with them. And it makes me insecure.

Does anyone else have this issue? Suggestions?[/quote]

What is your relationship with your mother like?

I definitely have this issue.  I never feel I can truly be myself with other women.  I often find myself handling other women with kid gloves.  Other women tend to like me, but I tend not to feel close to them because I am playing out my stereotype of what a nice girl should be, not being myself.  I realize nowadays that my toxic relationship with my mother and early experiences of rejection by other girls have colored how I see women.

My mother is a nasty piece of work and borderline/histrionic personality disorders.  She sees other women as either prey or threats.  To get along with her, I was outwardly self effacing and deferential to her while keeping away from her anything of importance she could use against me. I still keep other women at arm's length the way I did my mother. It's how I grew up relating to women. Because I was a neglected and physically abused child, I often went to school with my hair undone and unkempt clothes. Other girls humiliated and excluded me, which reinforced my fear of other women. I am only beginning to slog through all of this now.  I have female friends, but my relationships with them are very superficial and I always know them way better than they know me.[/quote]

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