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[quote=Anonymous]I've been reading through the other threads people wondering if they should break up with some one, wondering if they missed out on "the one", people worrying about getting married,people contemplating affairs etc
Has  me doing  a lot of thinking.

I recently turned 31.  I was a late bloomer and didn't start dating until my  20s. I'm now at the point in my life where I'm starting to think about settling down.  Logically I know there is no perfect person and that anyone I end up with will have "something" I find annoying. How do you know if something is a red flag/ something that will irritate you till kingdom come vs  learning to accept something irritating to have someone you love?
I'm not  sure I've asked that right. I'll try examples.

My long term relationship ended in April we were off and on for about 18 months. He was/is a great guy. On paper he was probably a 9 out of 10  of everything  I have ever wanted, and though I enjoyed being with him, and good see myself marrying him. There was always something missing. Looking back I realize  he was the perfect person to fit into what my idea of perfect was, but I was never really able to be  me around him.

Then there was the guy I had a fling with, good guy, permanent  bachelor type. Phenomenal sex and knew how to show me a good time. We had fun together , but it was all superficial.

Now there is the guy I'm currently seeing, and I never  would have picked him for myself. At first I thought the attraction was that he reminded me of my college sweetheart " the one that got  a way". They do share similar qualities, but  are also vastly different.  There's  a lot about him I find irritating , but I still want to be with him .  I also have no problem just being around him something that  I couldn't do with my ex,

In  reality it's too early to  be  planning on  a future together, as we both are  coming out of something serious. I guess I just want to know. How do you know?

What are the things that should matter when looking for  a spouse? What are the things you let go?[/quote]

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