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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 18:36.

I parent a child with special needs; we all have our crosses to bear in life. I understand that your childhood trauma has made it difficult for you to create healthy boundaries with your mother, siblings, and perhaps everybody. It's NOT too late to start now, not for them, but for you! You deserve happiness and health, and if people are demanding too much from you, you have the power to make it stop. It appears you took on the mantle of chief caregiver to your family early on.

I second the need for a therapist. He or she will hopefully convince you that you do not need your family's approval to live your life. You will hopefully get to a point that nasty comments or burdensome expectations don't faze you anymore.

The bottom line is: when you help a family member who needs it, like your mother, you do it as you would for an anonymous charity case. Not expecting maternal love in return, or anything she cannot give. Feel free to severely limit contact with your family at all other times. This is what DH does with his father, who has bipolar disorder and is a real handful! He helps him with medical and material stuff, listens UN-emotionally to his rants, but avoids him as much as he can.
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