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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been on both sides of this scenario before and it's really tough.  I have to agree with 8:09 though, context matters.

My DH has gained weight since we met and he talks so badly about himself all the time.  He's so uncomfortable about his body now.  I never say anything to him other than encouragement and reassurance that I think he looks amazing and that I'm still incredibly attracted to him but it doesn't help.  I try showing him that I'm still attracted to him but I get shut down.  I feel awful but, the way things are going, I can see myself snapping at him one day out of desperation.[/quote]

I feel you, PP.  My DH is overweight right now, knows it, feels bad about it, and is struggling to address it.  He has a stressful job, we have two small kids, and none of it helps him make healthy choices.

I try to say as little as possible about it, yet I am concerned and he knows that. I still let him know that he is attractive to me.  And he is awfully kind about changes to my body postpartum.

It's a sensitive thing, and it wouldn't be a bad idea for you and DH to have a dukes-down, honest conversation about it.  Calling you fat wasn't a nice thing for him to do, but I can also see how he might be tired of hearing you complain about it, tired of hearing you beat yourself up, and probably a little worried too.

Also: I make it a big point never to have my son hear me criticize my body. My four year old thinks I am pretty, and I bet yours does too.[/quote]

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