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[quote=Anonymous]DH is a Jewish atheist and I am protestant Christian (non-evangelical).  I am more of a believer than he is, but pretty liberal in my understanding of things.  We both feel very attached to the cultural aspects of our respective religions.

We've decided to embrace both traditions, while steering discussion of the faith aspects toward the commonality in our faiths: God rather than Jesus.  I do talk to my kids about Jesus but describe him as an important teacher who helped people learn new ways of thinking about God.  We have decided not to enroll the kids in church- or synagogue-based education.  We do plan to have some sort of coming of age ceremony/party and hope to find a private tutor who can help the kids read both old and new testament and study the two sides of their heritage in a way that focuses on similarities, differences, moral obligations, and ways of grappling intellectually with the more challenging aspects of having two religious traditions.  We may look to the Interfaith Families Project for help with this when the kids get a bit older.

There is a psychotherapist in DC who is also a Rabbi and specializes in working with interfaith couples: Dr. Blecher.  We worked with him prior to marriage and found the experience both harmful and helpful.  I would recommend meeting with him, but don't be surprised if it polarizes you (at least for a while) and don't expect to figure out a neat framework for living with two faiths within a couple of months of sessions.  I found him mostly helpful in that he could articulate all the dimensions of religion where tensions arise (faith, community, identity,ritual, etc.).  This allowed us to recognize that we could harmonize the two traditions in some dimensions but needed to consciously gloss over the conflict in other dimensions (faith) in order to make our arrangement work.  [/quote]

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