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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you give any details otherwise it seems like you are deliberately not sharing pertinent info that you know would turn the tides against you and in your family's favor.

Especially when you defensively mention that your family's physical mental and emotional needs are being met...obviously your family doesn't think so and you think they are overstepping and looking down on your lifestyle choices by offering to help.

So what is it?[/quote]

Fair enough.

We are a family of 4 in a small 2 br/1 ba apt. We are seldom at home and it's actually far nicer than any place I lived growing up. The rent is low enough that we can afford most of the experiences of growing up middle class that my children or I think are important. The location is convenient to everything except my job. However, I may not work full time in the near future. Due to health issues, I can't effectively housekeep a much larger space. My DC are old enough that they don't need a yard to play in. We are blocks away from one of the area's great parks. And while I miss a veggie garden, my partner already works too much and I don't want him spending weekends mowing, raking, shoveling, etc. My DC share a room, but are the same gender. They have learned to value experiences over stuff because we don't have room to store tons of things.

Two of my three siblings have the idea that I should be raising my children in a SFH in the suburbs. They want to subsidize this lifestyle by paying the difference between our rent and the cost of a 3-4 br/2 ba home closer to my job. They pooh-poohed the housework and yard work concerns by offering to pitch in whenever needed.[/quote]

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