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[quote=Anonymous]A few months ago, my siblings (well 2 of the 3) made an offer of regular help via their time and money that is very generous, but unneeded. I totally get how the offer fits with their vision of what my family life should/should not be, but my partner, kids, and I have the situation in hand, so we declined politely. I don't want to go into more detail, but it is really a values/lifestyle choice thing. Everyone's physical, social, and emotional needs are being more than well met. My partner is particularly opposed to accepting any financial assistance, even short-term. He has offered to take on additional work if I really think "X" is necessary. I don't think "X" is necessary and my partner already works one full-time and one part-time job, plus a second part-time job seasonally (coaching).

My dad keeps hinting that my siblings have some hurt feelings over the decline of help. I'd like to address them before the next holiday.

I know that my siblings feel a bit useless to me as I deal with some major health issues. We actually could use help with another situation. It would be a one time thing that would not take more than 90 minutes of their time on a Saturday and some SUV gas + trailer rental money which we'd happily reimburse. Should I mention this at all? As in "If you'd really like to help..."[/quote]

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