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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the cheated upon wife, I say tell, but tell for the right reason.  The right reason is not to lift your guilt.

The right reasons are that 1) you want to start living life honestly, 2) you are willing to stop being a bystander in the manipulation of your cheating boyfriend 3) you are willing to stand up and face uncomfortable situations and do the right thing even when it makes you look bad and feel like crap and 4) you are committed to making amends and changing in a way that makes it impossible to do this again.

Expect to be disbelieved when you tell.  Expect to be vilified.  Expect that your boyfriend will be very angry.  Be willing to cut all ties with him immediately and permanently.  Be open to speaking with the wife honestly and answering any questions, which will be very uncomfortable.  It will be awful, but you deserve that; it is a consequence of what you have done.

Then commit to at least a year where you date no one, and engage in serious therapy with a professional to understand how you could do something so horrible and self-delusional and let your life become such a train wreck. 
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Hell Yes![/quote]

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