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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am curious to know how those who have/had college-aged guests staying over during the Thanksgiving holiday (or other times) feel about them as responsible human beings. I have two college-aged nieces here for the holiday (3 nights so far) and I am honestly just appalled by their refusal to contribute in any way to cleaning up, preparing meals, showing gratitude, etc. This isn't new -- they have been like this for years. I think what hit me this year is that they are now in college, and I fear this is just who they are as humans.  
Some examples: they have no idea how to set a table -- don't know which side of the plate a fork, knife, or spoon goes on, don't know where glasses go, etc. They "don't know how" to put a dish in a dishwasher and therefore don't, nor do they ever wash a dish. When asked to help do something like clean up the table they do the absolute minimum possible and are gone, back to their phones, within seconds. 
My intent here isn't vent. I am trying to understand how much they reflect their generation vs. failures to parent/teach in our family. They have each had very different influences from two different families. I know my side of the family has failed them, but I had thought other families involved would have done more. 
So, is this just the way it is for young adults in 2015? I also wonder at what point in life your behavior isn't about whether your parents taught you to do something, but about you and your choices? 
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Guests, no matter what age, shouldn't be "expected" or "asked" to do anything.   Obviously you don't not how to host.[/quote]

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