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[quote=Anonymous]We were together for 12 years and married for 6 when we had kids.  Ambivalence is what we both felt--actively considered it for a long time but could not get off the fence.  I knew, though, that if I did have kids it would be more than one and not when I was younger.  I did not want to be 32 and at home with kids (I knew I would SAHM for at least some time if I did have kids) looking out the window thinking about what else the world had in store for me and feeling frustrated about things I missed out on.  I accomplished A LOT in my 30s and am happy I waited.

We stopped birth control when I was 39 (played Russian roulette) and got pregnant within a few months. We were both stunned it happened so easily.  No. 2 did not happen easily and required help.  I read a lot of books trying to decide--there are a bunch of books about whether or not to pull the trigger.  My favorite was Waiting for Daisy. After reading a bunch of those decision books I feel like a lot of them did not adequately discuss the joy that comes from kids and most came down on the side "Kids are hard work so you'd better be prepared."  In Waiting for Daisy the writer's husband summed up his decision to go for it by comparing life to an amusement park and saying he wanted to go on all the rides.  I was also fearful of missing out.  6 years of parenthood in I don't like how old I'll be when my younger kid is in high school but I am very happy as a parent now because I feel like I am exactly where I am supposed to be--I accomplished the majority of my bucket list already.[/quote]

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