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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I have been together almost 13 years. Due to a few factors, not least of all both of us being somewhat ambivalent about it, we put off having children and have basically moved forward as though we wouldn't have kids.

The last few months, there's been a shift. I just turned 40, and I've been privately thinking I wish we did have kids. DH surprised me last night on his own, and asked if it's something we should reconsider.

I've been moving along, being okay that we wouldn't, and although I had days of feeling sad, it was a decision I was okay with. Now, with that door open and the option on the table, I feel completely different.

I guess the kicker is- now I wonder if it's really too late. We don't have a lot of time to "consider" it anymore, and TBH, I'm still on the fence. I know we have a great family unit, we could afford it, etc. That being said, I also worry a little about being older parents, and I really Enjoy lifestyle as it is (not that we wouldn't adjust and adore our new life as parents).

Yes, I know everything above is kind of simplistic, I just trying to abbreviate and collect my thoughts.

I read on here often, and have friends who have had "oops" children later on and have been so happy that it happened. Obviously, I know it wouldn't likely be so easy for me to conceive, etc. so there are other risks involved. I also have friends who say if they could do it all over again, they wouldn't have children. Not that they don't love them, just those musings if you ever really did get a do-over.

So, older parents; and those who maybe didn't set out specifically to be parents - are you happy with how it turned out? Do you regret it? [/quote]

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