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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dunno, OP.  I think you're going to have to call a family meeting with the siblings and say something.  Prepare specific things you would like them to do, like visit for X days every 3 month, call weekly, etc.  If DH won't do it, he should at least sit beside you and back you up.  The siblings should fly out, see him in person, and be responsible for his care for a period of hours while you and DH have some respite.

As for the MIL, I don't think you have to let her stay with you if you're not up to it.  Tell her you are overwhelmed caring for FIL and cannot have houseguests.  That at least should save you some hassle.  She is probably in denial of what she dumped on you and DH.  My mom is like that-- divorced my dad because he's a pain in the ass.  Thanks, mom.[/quote]

Absolutely tell MIL that you aren't up to house guests this year.  (Especially since her ex will be living with you!)  Don't be apologetic, just straightforward.

As to siblings, talk to your DH about what you need/would like from his siblings.  Then ask for them.  It sounds like these people aren't going to initiate anything, so don't expect them to.  [/quote]

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