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[quote=Anonymous]My FIL suddenly had a stroke visiting. We obviously supported him and took on a lot (coordinating his care, dealing with sudden hospitalizations, dealing with an obviously worried FIL and PT/OT therapy).

Why am I annoyed? My MIL, who was married to this man for 35 years filed for divorce and left him. I don't know why and didn't take sides in the whole thing, though it was sudden. 
She's been traveling, loving life, snuggled up with her boyfriend in a cottage in Maine (oh, I know I need to quit facebook). I don't even begrudge her this, but there is this part of me that is so mad is that I am literally going gray with everything on my plate (small children, working 50+ hours a week, spouse working as much, and coordinating my FIL's care) and she is sort of "lalalalala life is good." She wants to come for the holidays, which I am fine with except this year is going to be different considering our small amount of free time is being spent managing FIL's recovery. My DH is frustrated since no one, including his siblings, have visited FIL or offered us any respite support. We are managing, but I just feel myself getting upset when my MIL calls and wants to pretend everything is fine. It's not. His siblings do the same thing. They call and pretend it's like this was a small thing. The man is in a wheelchair and is struggling to get his speech back and is incredibly agitated and frustrating.

I just want to say: "I get it; he's not my problem anymore. But he's still your children's father and you could at least ask about how he is doing and how we are doing trying to manage this health crisis." But I bite my tongue because she's not my mother and this isn't my family; it's just that their problems are apparently mine.[/quote]

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