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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In recent years, I've noticed a trend with DW.

She meets someone and "totally loves them." And then, in time, something happens and suddenly that person is completely incompetent, or an utter bitch, or worse.

I've seen this happen with:

- Bosses (twice she's lasted at a company for three months and left in large part because of clash with her supervisor, whom she declared incompetent).
- Other moms (it's almost always women she has these conflicts with). In both circles of my kids' friends (i.e., clashes with moms of kids older DC is friends with and then with younger DCs circle). It was like this in both communities where we've lived -- with the kids as toddlers and now as tweens.
- Other volunteers at church.
- Teachers and school administration
- Other parents on dcs' sports teams
- Neighborhood civic association type projects

It's gotten to the point where I can see the cycle coming. If we host something, I can pretty much guarantee a LONG venting session later where she's really angry about this perceived slight or something someone's bratty kid did or whatever.

I realize that I have grown tired of it because what I've come to realize is she's the common denominator. She can be abrupt, rude, and tempestuous. I've seen her snarl at other people's children! Unfortunately, that makes me a bad partner because I no longer really indulge listening to it. The one time I gently tried to point out that she seems to have a lot of conflict with others, she bit my head off, left the room and slammed the door. We didn't talk for 36 hours. I've also suggested she seek some therapy for her anger, insecurity and temper, and that wasn't received well, either.

Her mother was like this -- alienated a lot of friends throughout her life. I notice that as DW ages, this behavior is becoming more pronounced in her, too.

I worry this will begin to affect the way my own children interact with others. Any suggestions?[/quote]

Sounds like my DH...although he gets along well with others (they think he's a great person). In private he criticizes and finds fault with almost everyone, especially family. I struggle to keep his attitude from influencing me, however, it makes me weary. [/quote]

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