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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.   My  reserved, shy, somewhat anxious 3 yo DD sees my parents about once every 9 months.  They don't understand why she doesn't run to their arms immediately and why she prefers me and my DH to them.  When my DD was 1.5 years old, my mom said that my DD was a "nightmare" because DD would cry whenever I or my husband left the room.  When trying to explain the basis for my DD's behavior, my mom responded that "there is no such thing as a bad baby, just bad parents."  More recently, we had a large amount of family visiting (including my parents, siblings, and their young kids).  This made DD fairly anxious because it was her first time meeting my siblings/her cousins, plus it was a lot of people to have in our small house for several days.  DD became especially clingy to me during the visit (wanting to be held, sit on my lap, come with me as i did chores around the house), which made my mom very frustrated.  My mom commented several times that we were letting DD run our lives because we tried to accommodate DD's clinginess.  My mom's opinion was that we should tell DD (then 2.5) to man up and stop being a cry baby.  My opinion is that it doesn't really bother me if DD sits on my lap, or helps me do the laundry, and if she isn't comfortable with my parents, why force her to stay with them? When DD was a baby, my mom questioned the fact that I was breast feeding.  She also suggested that we should let DD cry it out at 2.5 months (we did cry it out at 8 months).  I just try to ignore her, but I find it difficult not to take things personally when my mom is suggesting that DD is bad, or that we are parenting wrong.[/quote]

I would stop being around my mother if she said those things to me. ESPECIALLY if she said them in front of my DD.[/quote]

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