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[quote=Anonymous]So my sister lives with us and is really involved in helping out with my kids (in exchange for financial support). She's great and we love having her around. But over the past month, she has started a little fling with one of the kids' teachers. I was okay with it at first...we set some ground rules, etc...but now the guy seems like a total bullshitter and I'm really torn about what to do.

First of all, the way it started is alarming: he looked up her number in the school database and started texting her. He didn't even try to act like it was about school or the kids...just immediate romantic intentions. But she was excited, so I was supportive at first. I thought "okay, maybe he really likes her...who am I to get in the way?"

Now they text ALL DAY AND NIGHT. She's shown me his texts (though I've asked her not to) and he seems so insincere, like he's plagiarizing a 90s romance novel. And the more she learns about him, the more I'm concerned. He's barred from his parents' house for some reason, he just entered AA and has been divorced twice (at age 30)!!! He also gets "mad" or "jealous" if she (God forbid) tells him she needs to put the phone down and do something else...like have a face-to-face conversation with someone else.  :shock:

What's worse is he rarely makes any time for her outside of the phones...no dates or any real plans...except occasional last-minute meetups. Yesterday, he showed up at the building with zero notice and she immediately just put her shoes on and ran out the door. :roll:  I told her she needs to have some dignity...make him work for it, for God's sake! But she is way too deep in the excitement to realize how messed up this is. She doesn't get a lot of attention otherwise so this is a big deal for her (yet another reason I'm concerned...when he moves on, she'll be destroyed). :cry:

Now I know what some of you are thinking: she's an adult, let it play out, etc. But again...this guy works at my kids' school. I'm freaked out and can only see this ending badly. I've expressed my concerns to her but of course she doesn't want to hear it.

Is there anything I can do? Or do I just wait for it to be over?  [/quote]

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