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[quote=Anonymous]No, I wouldn't record things!  This is a sure-fire way to make everyone feel accused and upset.

I would address this with your DW much more calmly and openly.  I'd set a time when both of you are feeling good (no resentment about anything else going on between you) and have a talk about things.  Maybe phrase it as, "The kids are getting older, and I think it's important to revisit how we're teaching them about beliefs and what we want to instill in them."  Then have a real, open discussion.  Listen to her and her beliefs and share yours.  Keep MIL out of the discussion until you've come to some shared ground about how you want to be raising the kids.  I know you've already discussed this together, but doing it again will be useful.  Only after that can you talk about MIL's role in this and how you feel she fits into the picture in terms of helping raise the kids how both of you want.

Personally, I think you may be erring on the side of "I'm an atheist and thus have no beliefs, and my DW has beliefs and is sharing them, but I don't want her sharing them because I have nothing to counteract that with."  This is not the right perspective.  It's not really fair to ask her not to talk about her beliefs if they are important to you, simply because you feel you have no beliefs.  I actually think you're selling your belief system short.  I would focus on rephrasing being an atheist as a belief -- an active belief that there is no God.  Depending on what you believe exactly, you can interject other things into this belief system -- maybe you believe in the innate goodness of people as individuals or in nature or in science.[/quote]

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