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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - oh sorry, I was unclear.  This is a gift for DH and I.  I fully get that she wants to get a gift at xmas for grandkids.  Should they spend the money?  No.  But they're her grandkids.  We do have an Amazon list for DD to attempt to direct these gifts.

What he has requested is that there be no more gifts for us, the adults.  It has to stop.  And she has ignored it.  And has not even asked us whether or not we would want it.  She just ignored him and sent this giant ugly gift that we cannot return.  QVC!  Good god.[/quote]

Hi again! This is a new wrinkle (to me- maybe you said it and I missed it) but ignoring requests for no adult gift/s... I guess there are still a few options. 
1) (This is in an email/ letter/ call before Christmas) 'MIL [or Mom, since it's your husband], I love that you think of us, and want to get us a lovely gift every year, but starting this year we really have to strictly adhere to our no-gifts rule, due to space issues! Any gifts that we receive are going to have to be donated to charity, so please don't go to the trouble.' 
2) She gets you a gift anyway- 'Hi MIL/ Mom, As we said, we appreciate the gift so much, but really have no space for it. Would you prefer I return the gift to the company with your order number, or donate it (to a women's shelter, job center, homeless shelter...)?' She will get the picture if you say this enough times (hopefully). 
3) Actually, I don't really know that I have a 3rd option, unless it's sell on ebay. :) But then mom still spends money and doesn't get the message that is offered by #1 and 2.

I think Mom means well. :)

I don't know, OP! You both seem like good people, and I'm trying to help out, but it may just come down to MIL is going to buy you a gift- tell her what you want (that you think is within her budget but would make her feel really happy about getting for you- maybe a movie you say is really special but you keep forgetting to get it/ can't find it...?[/quote]

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