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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am coming to terms with the fact that my son may always be a B/C student.  He tries hard, but has anxiety and does poorly on tests.  He has other learning disabilities (mild) and ADHD.  He also manages Type 1 Diabetes- which is very difficult.   I know he is smart, and I firmly believe he will have a great future, once he hits college and can focus more on his interests.  He is talented and well-spoken, so I really am not worried about him in the long run.  We will find a college that is right for him.    (Middle school currently) The hard thing, and I realize to some degree this is petty, is that [b]honestly all of our friends have extraordinary kids[/b].   It's hard when we are together, and one says," I am not sure how to handle our son, XX, getting a B+ this quarter-- it's his first B"  do I punish him?  What should I do?"  etc.   you get the idea.  These are kids who will do very well academically and have a lot of pressure on them to do well.    Parents went to Ivy or near Ivy schools.    My husband went to state schools, and I went to a very good college, but we know we are no brainiacs.   We have found great success in our lives, and I believe our children will do in what they choose to focus on.  (I have another child with pretty severe LDs but high IQ)  This is a rambling way of saying not sure how to not let these comments get under my skin, but also not let the complete lack of perspective get in the way our friendships.   Advice?  Thanks.   [/quote]
I think the key is to realize that your son is extraordinary also.  If these kids were dealing with learning disabilities, ADHD, anxiety, and Type 1 Diabetes (!), perhaps they would not have the luxury of just now dealing with a B+.  Your kid sounds pretty extraordinary to be managing all of this and still doing fine.  Also, it's important to remember that all of these experiences now are going to help him succeed in life.  My husband lived a pretty charmed life all through law school -- great grades, great schools, no financial worries, all without a huge effort, which was wonderful but when he failed at something big it really knocked him for a loop in a  much bigger way than if he'd had more experience dealing with adversity.[/quote]

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