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[quote=Anonymous]I used to have a pretty decent relationship with my parents.  But, for the last two years, my relationship with them become more strained.  We used to speak on the phone a few times a week, but now, they never, I mean never, call me.  I am always the one to call, and if I don't, they go for weeks without talking to me. Lately, every time I have called, my mother screens the call and never calls me back.  A couple of times when I have caught her, she makes some excuse about getting in the shower or that she will call me back, but she never does.  I have managed to talk to my dad a few times, and the conversations were fine, so I don't know.  You would think that they would want to know how my DD, their granddaughter is doing, but they show very little interest (while lavishing an unbelievable amount of attention on my sister's DS).  They send her cheap afterthought gifts and basically have nothing to do with her life.  We see them a few times a year, and during those visits, my dad is usually OK, but my mother's behavior ranges from downright rude and critical to quiet and indifferent.  She spends half the time talking in an "in your face" way about how great and successful certain people she knows are.  She might as well add a "and you're not" at the end of each sentence. My dad interacts well with my DD, but my mom always seems distant and is openly critical of me, my daughter, and how I am raising her.

I have asked my mother if anything is wrong, and she always says no, stop asking.  I have asked my dad too and he says that everything is fine. So, I talked to my sister, and she thinks that my mother is disappointed that at our age (40s), we don't live in a big house or have lots of money and big-time careers (I am now a SAHM).  She has always been a bit of a snob about those things, and I think that she had dreams of me being rich, but I can't believe that a mother would act that way to her child and grandchild over socioeconomic issues.

What should I do? I haven't talked to them in weeks, and, at my Dad's invitation, we are supposed to go there for Thanksgiving.  I can't even get a hold of my mother to discuss travel plans.  This is so ridiculous!             [/quote]

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