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[quote=Anonymous]Have you explored it in therapy?  I just offer that as an interim step before making a huge decision.  Have you always fantasized that it's a woman you are with?   Have you thought of the possibility of actually romantically loving another woman?  Not just the sex part.  But all of it.   A loving partner who's female.

The reasons I ask is that sexuality can be fluid and you can go in and out of stages of being sexually attracted to different sexes.   I just read one study that said women are never 100% straight.  I don't know how true that is.  I feel I'm 100% straight, but fantasized about being with women in my 20s often.  I never wanted to do it in real life, though.  And now I don't have those types of feelings anymore (in my 40s).  But I could never, ever imagine myself in a loving partnership with a woman.  It's always a man.

But it's not something that's always black and white.   And if you are bisexual, that might be a very different situation than being gay.   I do think you owe it to your family to flesh out these feelings as concretely as possible before possibly breaking up the family.  But then, after you've done that, and you are fairly certain you are gay and you'd lead a much more authentic life as a gay woman, then it's best for all if you move forward in that direction.

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