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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has she changed, OP, or has she always been this way and it has grown to bother you?

She sounds like an introvert, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and there is nothing you (or anyone) can do to get her to enjoy things like parties or gatherings. Introverts can do things they don't enjoy and that make them anxious and unhappy for the people they love, though, and most of us do, balancing those things with the solitary activities that recharge us.

As an introvert, it is really hard to have extroverts say things like I need to "get out of my shell," "move out of my comfort zone," "be more social." I actually don't need to do those things any more than extroverts need to stay in more, keep their mouths shut, and isolate themselves. Your post is really touching, OP, and I think you are probably a lovely husband, but it is clear that you think your DW would be a happier, better person if she liked parties and such. That is true only if she is suffering from depression or something now, and if her baseline is a more outgoing nature she should get back to. If her baseline is introverted...you may not be fully compatible socially. That's okay, too, but you have to work harder to find things you both enjoy.[/quote]

+1000. PP is spot on. You should read "Quiet." She sounds like a classy introvert. You see this an issue because you are an extrovert. I know that because my mom is like your wife. No matter what I do, she prefers to stay at home. It's frustrating but I have come to accept our differences.[/quote]

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