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For DH's family, Thanksgiving is a sacred holiday. Every one of DH's 50+ years has been with his mom and after meeting him I came along.  I like my ILs fine, but it does make me miss my family Thanksgivings, particularly now that my foodie family gets together and enjoys amazing food (oysters and champagne for appetizers, homemade ravioli, perfect turkey and stuffing).  I miss them and I envy the food:  MIL is a wonderful woman but I hate to say it, really an average cook even though she works very hard at it.  And she doesn't really cook stuff I love.

Recently, BIL got married.  I love new SIL but every other year now she wants to go to her family's for Thanksgiving.  I'm feeling resentful as I gave up Thanksgivings with my family.  Plus, my kids don't get to play with BIL's, and other SIL's kids are way older, so they are bored.

And we have to travel 6+ hours for this Thanksgiving, whereas my relative's is just 2 hours away.

Tell me I'm being petty or would love ideas.  I feel like also leaving MIL's would kind of make the whole thing fall apart, since it would just leave one family left, so I'm not sure that's a great option, but I can't really tell BIL and SIL to come every year either.    Obviously I'm thinking about this because this is a "BIL And SIL go to SIL's family's " year.

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OK this year, it's too late.  But set it up for next year.  If DH is stubborn, just take the kids to your side of the family.  You don't have to turn it into a war.  If he's never missed a Thanksgiving there, he doesn't want to break his streak.  Just let him have his streak and you do your thing with the kids.  The kids and you do not have to be there with him--it's a special circumstance and it's not saying anything about the marriage etc. for you to split up for Thanksgiving.  [/quote]

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