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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks to everyone for the good solutions!

We have had to host a few because of my pregnancies and because it's much easier for the aunt and cousins to drive here rather than driving 5+ extra hours to get to MIL/FILs house. Until recently, DH's grandmother lived in McLean, but she has sadly passed away within the last few months.

DH doesn't really notice this kind of stuff, and I haven't brought anything up to him, because it all seems kind of petty. I could think of a few solutions on my own, and many of these suggestions will work well. I think I will talk to him ahead of time this holiday, and I'm fairly sure he'll be "in my corner" once he knows this bothers me and why. It's one of those "subtle MIL problems," you know? Like nothing terrible or insurmountable.

Anyway, good thoughts here. Thanks so much![/quote]

Forgot to add that our house is much bigger and can more comfortably hold more people both for the "big meals" and for sleeping. Now that I'm thinking about that, I'm wondering if there is some "house jealousy" at play? People have said little things like, "Wow, I get a bed this year!" which is (I'm sure) meant just to be nice/"funny," but she may have overheard that and it hurt her. I'll try to maybe be aware of that and--if anyone says anything of the kind--downplay it/move on, say something like, "Yes, but I can't wait until Easter so we can see MIL's beautiful garden start to bloom."[/quote]

OP, I was going to ask about house size/"keeping up with the Joneses" but you beat me to it! A good point to be aware of...[/quote]

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