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[quote=Anonymous]My sister and I have always had the relationship where she always calls me with her personal drama. If it is not fights with friends, it is relationship drama or drama with my mother (who is just as stressful), or drama with her boss etc. I listen attentively, and have learned to not jump in with advice, and listen without judgement. The other times when she calls me, it is to ask me to bail her out finanncially. In times past, when she is going through 'high drama', she has threatened to take her own life, and we have had to plan interventions, call and beg, send her money etc. She lives in a different state. This has been going on for over 10 years. She is in her late twenties.

Part of me has always felt compassion because she does suffer from depression and maybe is bipolar (even though she does not always take her meds or seek treatment). My mother is in denial that my sister has these mental issues. However, I have had a rough three months with a horrible betrayal, intense stress at work and some health issues. I am drained, and really just trying to stay afloat. (I also suffer from depression, but I am under the care of a docto and a therapist, and have taken meds for three years.

I just had a conversation with her where she accused me of ignoring her (I have not called for several weeks), and the entire conversation was "me, me, me". She also said she is in more financial problems and cannot pay her rent this month. She says I have 'abandoned' her because I refused to respond to her text messages asking for financial help. I just got really tired and said I just could not deal with it right now. We got into a screaming match, we've never done that before. She hang up. I am really furious, but I am also exhausted. I am obviously worried she might hurt herself, because she always says I am the only one she can talk to.

I don't know how I make peace with the fact that she could do that. I also just don't really want a relationship with her, not right now.  She does not have a partner, and very few friends. [/quote]

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