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[quote=Anonymous]Ok folks, please be kind.  I'm a mom at the end of my rope, so worried about this kid that I'm in tears nearly every day.  We live in a Bethesda, in a "W" school area, and have a first grade girl.  She's bright, she's shy and VERY sensitive, I think she may have some mild ADD-inattentive issues (though not diagnosed yet).   She has a great teacher this year (first grade), who says she's doing great academically but certainly does a lot better one-on-one than in a group.  The major problem is this kid just HATES school.  She doesn't misbehave, but she cries every day, and cries every night, and says she doesn't think she's a good student and no one cares about her.  The teacher and we definitely think she's anxious.  She's a happy kid when she's home and playing.  She feels overwhelmed.  She has some friends, but she's always being pushed around by other kids and doesn't stand up for herself.  We're working on that.  We're going to have her see someone for the anxiety, and we may get her a neuropsych eval (though I'm nervous that doing that guarantees a diagnosis that might not be accurate or helpful when she's so anxious at this point anyway, so I kind of want to wait a year or so).
We're concluding that the big classroom in public school isn't doing it for her.  Who knows if it will be better in private school or not -- but I think we have to try.  I would really appreciate suggestions for schools that you think might fit this kind of kid.  She needs the warmest, fuzziest, most individual-attention-giving environment there is, I think.  When she has that, she blossoms at home.  She doesn't need a strict hand.  She already tries hard and does her work, and she's never gotten in trouble at school for anything.  She's the opposite of that.  She's always worried that she'll make a mistake or do the wrong thing.
The catch, of course, is that we can't afford this.  We're one of those $200k/year, 2-working-parent families with no family money and student loans.  We have a low mortgage, but we can't afford $30k/year in tuition.  I'm sure we wouldn't get financial aid either.  We can afford parochial.  But I'm willing to sell some organs to get her into a school that will help her be happy at this point.  (Please don't say stuff like "take fewer vacations".  We already only take camping vacations and drive old, beat up cars.  For us, it would mean not saving for retirement or college.  But, if that's the only way to give her what she needs, then we'll do it.)  But I'm open to any and all suggestions at this point, for both what would be the best school for her, and also what might be the "next best" school for her in our lower price range.  Or anyone who's had a similar kid and similar experience.[/quote]

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