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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, the problem here is that if you divorce over this, he could get alimony from you, he could continue not working, he could possibly get more custody because he's around more often and you'd have to pay for two households instead of one.  That sucks.

So I would wait until he gets back to work before you think about divorcing him.

(A friend is being sued for alimony by the husband who sponged off of her for over three years and then left her for a younger woman.  He is asking for a lot of money.)[/quote]

Court always favors the mother, esp one who is employed and has help (family care) with the children. One look at the profile of the husband and it's clear that he's in no position to take care of the children. Alimony alone from the wife isn't going to be enough to cover the expenses. However, my advice for the OP is that you talk to your hubby now about the concerns, don't let it escalate, and make sure that he feels supported in his job hunt. It's not easy. As someone who was un(der)employed after completing a Masters, I felt like I wasn't bringing to the table as much as I knew I could earn, but as a female it wasn't as big of the issue. As others have pointed out, for a typical American family, the male of the household is still expected to be the breadwinner---maybe your hubby just lost his focus and his ambition, try to help him figure that out through positive communication. Seek friends or close non-judgmental family to help reign him in. Good luck. [/quote]

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