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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am curious about what length PPs are willing to go to "make" their child sit at the table…we deal with this with our child with other behaviors and she does not like being physically held or restrained and now is too big to be carried around places or taken to her room physically.  She is strong.  I don't like to engage physically so what do you all mean by "make" your child sit at the dinner table.  I can't do this.  Threats?  Taking away privileges?  None of this seems to work.  Sorry to get off topic but I was struck by how easy some PPs make it out to be...[/quote]

First both parents decide they agree that it's important for the child to sit at the table, and they find a week when they will both be home for dinner.  They tell the child that she will be expected to join the family and eat at the table, this isn't a punishment, but they want her to be part of the family.  They put her plate on the table and tell her she may only eat at the table, and she cannot have any other food until she eats her dinner.  She screams, runs away, cries.  They insist. She cries.  It's a horrible evening.  They doubt themselves, because now she's hangry.  They go through this every night for the next few nights and it SUCKS.  By the end of the week she's sitting at the dinner table with only minimal complaint.  [/quote]

Yep.  This is the way it's down.  FWIW, I've got 2 kids with SNs and we've done versions of this for lots of things....'now is the time for X.  If you do not do X now, you will not be able to do X until.....'  Remove emotion from it and do not negotiate.  We also do not tell them what they 'will' feel but what 'may' feel (you may get hungry, you may get tired, you may get cold, etc.).  [/quote]

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