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[quote=Anonymous]Woah. Your first job here is to be supportive of your fiancé, and you are failing at that. You were not deceived; you chose not to ask who the abuser was and you correctly had assumed that the identity of his abuser is deeply painful. Most victims of abuse were abused by people close to them. This shouldn't be a shock. Your fiancé has had to define his own boundaries with his abuser... You can talk to him about his thoughts and feelings about maintaining contact with someone who hurt him, but it is not your place to judge or condemn. If you choose to have children, you can set your own boundaries together. You should talk about that before you marry so you are on the same page. But you have a lot to learn about how to support your fiancé. I suggest counseling together or at least for you.[/quote]
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