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[quote=Anonymous]Wasn't sure where this belonged as we are not married yet, but I figured this forum would be okay since it is family related, and the advice tends to be better more realistic.
Here it goes I am engaged to a wonderful guy, we plan to be married this coming June. Over the summer after an argument he confessed to me that he had been sexually abused during his child.
He emphasized that he was over it, had dealt with it, but wanted me to know, because he felt like I should know since we were going to be married.
At the time, he did not share who his abuser was, I thought that was a little strange, especially since he insisted he was over it, but I didn't push. I figured he  wasn't comfortable sharing that information at the time, but eventually I would find out.
Well I did find out , over the weekend.
I don't want to get into too many details, but his abuser is a very close family member, someone he still has regular contact with, appears to be close to, and someone that cannot be avoided.
I can say I'm not handling well at all, we got into a fight over it. I got very angry at the situation, and at my fiance too . I feel a little deceived. I'm very confused at what to do, and I don't understand how he can be okay with maintaining a relationship with this person.
I don't know how I can be supportive in this particular situation.
I guess I want to know if anyone has made this kind of situation work. I obviously still love and care for him deeply, and can't imagine my life without him, but that means this other person will be in it, and that makes me sad and  sick to my core. I'm very upset, very, very upset.
Is there any way to make this work?

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